I was recieving grumbles and gossips from one of my friend, Randy. By his telling, I got to know that he is facing emotional crises with his wife. Exactly speaking, Randy doubts that his once-devoted wife is cheating on him, and certainly, he endeavors to get this right but has no idea where to begin. I could not sit back and do nothing about it. After somedays of inquires and extraction, I fixed a private detective. Just when I plan to inform him the contact information of the private detective, he came to me and shocked me with a piece of news: he had been told to install a software tool to monitor his computer!

Upon further acquaintance, I finally make it clear that the software tool he installed is a kind of keylogger software, which is usually used as parental control software. Keystroke logger(often called keylogger) is a tool for tracking(or logging) the keys pressed on a keyboard, typically in a covert manner so that the person using the keyboard is unaware that their actions are being monitored. There are numerous keyloggers, in which the software-based keyloggers are most comprehensive used. They are software programs designed to work on the target computer’s operating system. The latest keylogger software can even capture screenshots, send log emails or monitor computers with remote installation.

It seems a way, but does it really work? However, when I am still questioning its practicability, Randy told me with a subdued heart that he had found some unpleasant evidence of his wife’s recent abnormality. “What a shame!”, I murmured. But Randy replied:” It’s a shame that we are breaking, but not a shame I found what she had done to me. Even if I ‘d rather it would not be true, my senses tell me that it ’s better to learn the truth!”

On the one hand I, as Randy ’s friend, feel sorry for his sufferings; on the other hand, I wonder at the high technology of information. With so creative development, we are provided such cheap Pinkertons for assisting in digging out the truth.

PC Keylogger
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Can this kind of electronic evidence be used in court? If the content leaves no doubts whatsoever, would the judge still dismiss it, only because I have collected it without my my wife’s consent?

Could anyone recommend to me any law firms in London that might have experience with this kind of cases?

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>> no, you were invading her privacy

what rights does the man have in such situations?
9 hours ago

>> As direct evidence - I doubt. I would say - no.

how about the fact of her sending out pictures our child to men met on sex forums?

you can’t have ‘direct’ evidence, can you? this by definition ‘virtual’; and still the implications could be very real

The Cheating Girlfriend

The actual affair that your girlfriend had is important in deciding whether to take her back. A one-night stand can be categorized as a mistake, and thus forgivable. A year long love affair is more serious, because her heart was involved. If her heart can become involved with another man once, can it happen again?

One might also want to think about the amount of lies told to keep a long affair going. A long time affair consists of constant manipulation and continuous lies. Can you have a trusting relationship after such a deep level of deceit? Will there be the complete trust needed to have a positive relationship? Many men can not trust a woman who has sexually betrayed them. Their hostility may be played out in a controlling manner. A controlling man and a remorseful woman make for an emotionally abusive relationship. It is better to leave a woman alone, than to engage in an unhealthy and hostile relationship.

Some men can accept a relationship better than a one-night stand. If you are the type of man that views a one night stand as worst than a relationship, then taking back a girlfriend who cheated in that manner will never work. Respect has been lost for her and will affect your future relationship. If one is an old-fashioned man or a sexually reserved man, then taking back a cheating girlfriend is unproductive. Your moral standing will not allow you to forgive her for the indiscretion. Without forgiveness, moving forward is impossible.

There are certain situations when one should never take back a cheating girlfriend. If your girlfriend cheats with a friend of yours, she has no shame and is likely to do almost anything. If you take her back, you shall appear desperate, and your mental competency will be questioned. Your friend is also a loser, and should be disposed of accordingly.

If your girlfriend cheated with a family member, then she has no morals and any type of betrayal is possible for this type of woman. Worse than that, if a woman becomes pregnant from an affair, a man should never take her back. This is positive evidence of high risk sexual behavior that can lead to the spread of life threatening diseases. A man should remove himself from a woman who leads such a risky lifestyle. She is willing to endanger herself and her partners.

Should a woman be involved in a lesbian affair but deny her true sexual orientation, do not take her back. The reason to steer clear of her is her confusion. She is in denial about her sexual orientation including same sex attraction. She may be with you or any other man only as part of her denial. Eventually she may acknowledge her bisexuality or lesbianism, and leave you. You run the risk of being hurt due to her confusion. Save yourself, and don’t take her back.

The reasons why the woman cheated are important in determining whether to take her back or not. If she cheated for companionship, couple counseling may resolve the issues between a couple.

If she cheated for sex, then sexual therapy may be an option worth exploring. If there is a physical problem, then consult your primary care physician or an urologist to see if there is a disease or injury that needs medical treatment. There are prescription drugs to enhance sexual libido and performance in a man.

Many factors go into a woman cheating, just as many factors should be considered if you want to take her back. Place yourself in a position of strength and forgiving. If you still harbor bitter feelings, or feel victimized don’t take her back and assist in an encore production of “ The Cheater”.

Children browse eroticism website ,indulge in net games,or even chat with bad guys they may meet in the internet. Employee is playing while working or sent secret information to the competitor. Somebody use your personal computer ,peeking your privacy…

How can we prevent these kind of situations? The answer is Spywares.

Maybe you know nothing about Spywares ,it really doesn’t matter. Let’s share the information .

There are different kinds of spy software

1. Parental Control Software

Safe Eyes parental control can Record websites visited, Instant Messaging Chats and programs used on the Internet for PC. Safe Eyes Mac Parental control block even huge sites such as amazon, e-bay and most shopping sites for protecting from accidental connections. Compulsory Safe Searches (Harmful sites away from your family) When using the Search engines. Safe Eyes is also a parental control software for Mac. It can Block The Sites you don’t want your kids To See. Its Mac Parental control prohibits the browsing of adult-only content on the Internet.

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2.Employee Computer Monitoring Software

Computer Monitoring Software is network employee computer monitoring software that invisibly monitors your entire network from one central location! IMonitor EAM is an all-in-one Employee Computer monitoring software for real-time network computer monitoring, employee activity monitoring, content filtering and employees’work time tracking Turn your Employees into more productive,So bosses really need one!

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3.Mobile Phone Spy Software

Mobile Spy is a hybrid software/service which allows you to monitor your smartphone in real time. This unique system records the activities of anyone who uses your compatible iPhone, Windows Mobile or Symbian OS smartphone. You install a small application onto your phone. It starts at every boot of your phone but remains stealth and does not show up in the running process list. After the software is setup on your phone it will record an array of phone activities and then silently upload the data to your private Mobile Spy account using the Internet. When you want to view results, simply login to the Online Control Panel from any computer and enter your username and password to proceed.

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4.Remote Spy Software

Spytech Remote Spy Software is the latest in high-tech surveillance software that allows you to REMOTELY INSTALL the monitoring software and access the activity logs from ANYWHERE via your own personal Realtime-Spy Remote Spy Software Webspace! No need for remembering IP addresses or directly connecting to the remote PC - All you have to do is point your browser to your own Realtime-Spy！

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5.Mac OS X Spy Software - Mac keylogger

Aobo Mac OS X Keylogger for Mac OS X is a powerful Mac keylogger on the market with remote monitoring support. It supports stealth keystroke recording, captures screenshots and can send the logs by email or FTP in a real time. The only Keylogger for Mac OS X which can Record Passwords.So it’s very useful for parents and personal computer.

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Usually, most of the spywares are very easy to be installed and used.Here is a website could tells you the particular steps of How to spy.

http://www.how-to-spy.com

With the openness of today’s society, how come you still feel that strange feeling everytime your significant half got a call from that his/her close friend? Maybe there was this person in particular that made you uncomfortable for reasons you can’t quite exactly put your finger on but not other close friends of his/her. How do you explain that?

Sometimes we have out instinct and they can tell you things you couldn’t see. If you are having any doubts about whether your spouse are cheating with someone close and you just can’t lay it to rest until you know for sure, check him out for alert signs below:

Observe the way they interact. Do they talk softly and laugh out loud on things that seems ‘exclusive’ to them? It would be odd, even rude to do that when other people (including you) were present and not know what they were talking about.

Are there a lot of flirtations going back and forth like touching, play fighting, hugging and whispering taking place? Well this is obvious but if you caught them interacting at this level when left alone, you have good reasons to probe further.

Who do your spouse confide in - you or this other person. Sometimes who we tell our heart contents out to depends on how well we can talk over the issue with a person. It may be fine if your spouse wish to have a little session of heart-to-heart with the friend on issues you already know and talked about. The problem only start when this friend actually know more than you do about your spouse because he/she has chosen to tell the ‘friend’ over you.

If you are part of the problem, it is natural to not consult you but it also give direct authority for this other person to barge in into your private lives. This will be very threatening to your position as the spouse and is highly indicative of cheating, if not internal problems in your marriage that may lead to cheating anyway. 

When you experience this, you are actually experiencing symptoms of withdrawal exhibited by your spouse. It is a communication breakdown, a form of separation really. And if this other person have any ill intention to separate you two then he/she has got the advantage to sabotage it by poisoning your spouse’s mind.

A cheating wife can cause much emotional trauma, not to mention the harm it could cause a family. That being said, it is very important that you are able to recognize warning signs of infidelity and cheating while it is early. Only then can there be any resolution to the problem – and that in a way that the relationship and the family are saved.

Here are some signs of wives that cheat. You have to be observant to be able to notice them at all. This problem is especially compounded when you put into consideration the fact that most men are too busy at work to be able to notice subtle trouble at home.

Some of these signs of cheating are “tongue in cheek” while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. 

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know.

He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes “accusatory,” asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, “Do you think it’s possible to love more than one person at a time?”

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a “glow” about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partner

Of course she wanted to be the sex kitten when Men were still plying her with compliments, planning romantic dinners, and surprising her with smooth sex moves. But now that Men think Men don’t need to buy her dinner to get her in bed, she’s wondering if she can’t do a little better than Men.

Although it sounds contradictory that they should feel lonely because the women are currently in a relationship, it is often a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling. Women involved in these unsatisfactory relationships may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are not in a relationship. If a woman is not receiving the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention elsewhere and become involved in an affair. A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone. This feeling of loneliness can drive a woman to cheat on her partner. One of the most prevalent reasons why women cheat is that they feel as though their current partner is not lavishing much attention on them and they feel lonely even in his presence.

Revenge has also become and increasing factor in why women cheat

Men got busted banging some other babe and now the gal wants to get even. Sadly, some chicks see the infidelity as a "get out of jail free" card that lets her indulge her own cheatin’ heart without the consequences. There’s a simple prevention method here: Don’t cheat. And if Men do, Men’d better be unwaveringly reassuring in the feelings of remorse and reform. And maybe buy her something expensive and sparkly.

The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them. If a woman confirms or even just holds a suspicion that their partner is cheating on them, they may be driven to engage in an affair of their own as an act of revenge. The theory of, “An eye for an eye,” has unfortunately trickled down into the realm of romantic relationships and many women see a cheating partner as a justification to have an affair of their own. They believe that they are justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them. Furthermore they may be extremely hurt by their partner’s actions and seek a way to hurt them in the same way. While it is not a justifiable reason, many women see revenge as an appropriate reason for cheating on their spouse.

Boredom may also factor into why women cheat

Their current relationship may have fallen into a rut and lost the excitement that it possessed in the early stages of its existence. They may feel that their relationship has become dull and predictable and rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement they felt when they first became involved with their partner. While an affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the woman feel excited about love again it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship. An affair is exciting not only because it involves a relationship with a new person but also because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong. To many women this is very exciting and they are willing to risk losing their relationship over their affair. Many women cheat because they are bored with the monotony of their current relationship and they seek to bring excitement back into their life through engaging in an affair.

Another reason why women cheat is a lack of self esteem

Women may feel that they are not getting an adequate amount of admiration from their partner and they may be tempted to cheat to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable. When a relationship meets a stagnant point where the partners are no longer making a conscious effort to reassure each other that they are still desirable, many women begin to feel insecure. This insecurity leads women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair. Being found desirable by another compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self esteem. While women with a healthy self esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self esteem are often driven to cheat on their partners.

And, some other reasons why women cheat on men

Men Changed…Or the Relationship Did

Men got meaner. Or messier. Or suddenly decided that getting the lazy butt off the couch long enough to grab another beer from the fridge was suitable exercise for the day. While it’s good to feel comfortable in the relationship, it doesn’t give Men permission to let theself go. Unless Men want to let her go.

The Grass is Greener

Just like she’ll cheat on her diet to taste that eclair, she might be tempted to treat herself to that tasty new guy in her office just because he’s there and looking delicious. Maybe she’s bored. Or maybe he’s really the man of her dreams. (Hey, we said we’d tell Men why women cheat; we didn’t say Men’d like all the reasons).

She’s Just Evil

Some babes are just always looking out for the better deal. She could get off on the illicit thrill of flirting with the forbidden; she could just like toying with nice boys like Men. Either way, the solutions are clear. Dump the dame or resign theself to frequent screenings for STDs.

It is a sad thing that wives blame themselves for their husbands’ infidelity. Thoughts of her husbands touching another woman and how they should have done better will race through their heads pounding like a 300 pounds gorilla. Don’t be. Because men are not as complicated as women.They just do, they don’t think. You can be the best wife or girlfriend in the world but that will not guarantee that your husband won’t cheat.

If Opportunity’s Knocking…

Your husband may be tempted to cheat just because there is an opportunity for him to do so. We love to blame the other woman for throwing herself at our husbands, but the truth is, it’s his fault too. You can call it submission to seduction, indiscipline, not thinking straight and so on but there’s no denying that men do think with their prick, not their head. He may just be flattered that he is wanted by another woman.

Especially When He’s With His Bunch Of ‘Friends’….

If men were vehicles, they will be fueled by either ego or alcohol. Combine these two and you get a killer. You know the deal. A few guys got a bit high and drunk. Stupid dares were thrown around.

Well, maybe not in this dramatic fashion but guys generally love to dare their mate to ‘go for it’, making mocking statements like “you’re not afraid of your wife, aren’t you?” or “man, I bet you’re too chicken to buy that cute chick a drink”.

Heck, his friend may even be comparing notes or just boasting about their ‘forbidden’ adventure. It takes a man with a straight head (not easy after a few drinks) and high self-control to see beyond the heat of his friends’ remark. It’s sort of like a throphy to them in a way.

Maybe He’s Just Curious…Or Bored…

This is where the men is likely to throw the ball back to his wife (or at least that’s what he tell the other woman). Maintaining passion in a marriage is both parties’ responsibility. Anyway, once they cheat, they’ll love to use this as an excuse anyway.

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy. 2) She sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.
3) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
4) She buys herself new underwear.
5) She sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to her office.
6) The toilet bowl seat is up, and when you left home it was down.
7) She’s unconventionally spending money on new clothes.
She stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
9) She stops wearing her wedding ring.

Signs of a Cheating Husband

1) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
2) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
3) You find a long blonde hair on the seat of his car.
4) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
5) He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
6) He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
7) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s home.
His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
9) You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy”
You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

How to Catch a Cheating Spouse?

Don’t be a victim, you deserve better!

If you are a spouse who suspects your partner might be having an affair, wants to find out if he/she is telling the truth or has a need to discover details of the affair, we recommend that you begin with spying on your partner online with a stealth monitoring spy software.

Generally, spy software is a surveillance tool which allows you to secretly monitor and record user’s activities on computer, and it is completely legal. Spytech Real-time spy is a perfect one. With this easy to use spy software, you will be able to see exactly what your spouse has been doing online and off-line just like you are looking at the computer monitor over his/her shoulder! It allows you to record keystrokes, e-mails, online conversation, password, Web site, and take screen snapshots at intervals like a surveillance camera, and deliver spy logs to you via E-mail or FTP at set intervals.

All you need to do is just install it on your home computer and press a simple click! This powerful computer spy program can run in stealth mode and is password protected, so your spouse is NOT aware of its existence, and the password can prevent him/her from terminating or uninstalling this program, and it does not require you to have advanced computer skills at all!

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