My little sister Sara just found out a couple months ago that her husband of less than a year was cheating on her with some woman at his work. She had been suspecting for some time but She never had any real proof, She felt Misrable suspecting her husband of such a terrible thing and doubt herself so much at the same time, but she knew in her heart and head that something was not the same. With out proof though she could not just abandon her marriage. He would always have a good reason that was just plausible enough to make her doubt herself and even feel bad that she had questioned him incase she was way off track.

Yes he had been cheating on her. He had been cheating on her for some time. Even having sex at work! He had been having conversations about Sarah and how he wanted to leave her for the other woman but had to wait for awhile so he could collect alimony (She makes about 20 times more than what he does and his lifestyle raised considerably when he married her). He was telling his mistress that if she loved him like she said she did she would wait to live with him for 5 years, In 5 years he said he could divorce Sarah and get enough alimony to totally support both himself and his girlfriend. By monitoring his SMS messages (Text, Picture, & Video Messages) Sarah read all this and more. Horrible details about there sex life and so much deception she could almost not believe what she was seeing. It was much more than she had suspected or even imagined.

“What if I am wrong?” She always thought. She did want so bad to be wrong about this. She tried to find excuses for the signs that she saw but deep down she knew she could not lie to herself anymore. Sarah decided to take matters in to her own hands and find out the truth for herself. She installed Mobile Spy Software in to is cell phone and what she found out was the most painful heart shattering thing she could have ever imagined.

Sarah was just sick about this but she was not going to be played for the fool. She gathered all the evidence she had collected and took it to her lawyer. Her lawyer was very pleased she had made his case so easy for him, he said he would have no problem leaving with exactly what he came in to the marriage with which was absolutely NOTHING!

Sarah was completely heart broken and so angry She was in a rage, she wanted to do so many horrible vindictive things to him her mind was racing. It was one of the hardest things she had ever done but some how she collected herself and kept her cool. Sarah wanted to know more. She used Google maps to track his exact location and found out that the nights he had been “working late” he was actually at two different places, across town in bar district and not to far from there in a apartment building. Not where he said he was, and this was going on 4 or 5 times a week. She also found out that they talked on the phone for hours at a time and sent each other pornographic pictures and videos.

Their divorce is not final yet but it will be very soon and although he did try to sue her for alimony Sarah’s lawyer assures her that because of the text message evidence she brought him he will not get one dime. She could use ever bit of evidence she had gathered because she was the owner of his cell phone (just by being married she co-owns anything of that nature). There for it is perfectly legal to use.

She is very glad she found out of his infidelity and intentions now before anything went farther and I am so thankful for her that they did not yet have children. Most of all I am thankful that my sister was not taken in like the victim of a con-art which is exactly how she felt. She is moving on with her life and trying to get over feeling so used but she feels like a weight has been lifted off her shoulders and she wants to encourage anyone out there who is hurting because they suspect there partner of being unfaithful to not wait another day. You deserve to know the truth and if you need proof this is undeniable! Do not be a fool, Cheaters will always Cheat! If someone loves you they would NOT cheat on you!

Other than the being the lustful creature we all are regardless of gender, men (still) cheat more often than women. Why is that so? Some say its in their genes, some people even think it’s normal for men to cheat! Whatever the reason is, it is the women that will be blamed (whether it’s the other woman, or the wife). This is more apparently so in certain societies.

It is a sad thing that wives blame themselves for their husbands’ infidelity. Thoughts of her husbands touching another woman and how they should have done better will race through their heads pounding like a 300 pounds gorilla. Don’t be. Because men are not as complicated as women.They just do, they don’t think. You can be the best wife or girlfriend in the world but that will not guarantee that your husband won’t cheat.

If Opportunity’s Knocking…

Your husband may be tempted to cheat just because there is an opportunity for him to do so. We love to blame the other woman for throwing herself at our husbands, but the truth is, it’s his fault too. You can call it submission to seduction, indiscipline, not thinking straight and so on but there’s no denying that men do think with their prick, not their head. He may just be flattered that he is wanted by another woman.

Especially When He’s With His Bunch Of ‘Friends’….

If men were vehicles, they will be fueled by either ego or alcohol. Combine these two and you get a killer. You know the deal. A few guys got a bit high and drunk. Stupid dares were thrown around.

Well, maybe not in this dramatic fashion but guys generally love to dare their mate to ‘go for it’, making mocking statements like “you’re not afraid of your wife, aren’t you?” or “man, I bet you’re too chicken to buy that cute chick a drink”.

Heck, his friend may even be comparing notes or just boasting about their ‘forbidden’ adventure. It takes a man with a straight head (not easy after a few drinks) and high self-control to see beyond the heat of his friends’ remark. It’s sort of like a throphy to them in a way.

Maybe He’s Just Curious…Or Bored…

This is where the men is likely to throw the ball back to his wife (or at least that’s what he tell the other woman). Maintaining passion in a marriage is both parties’ responsibility. Anyway, once they cheat, they’ll love to use this as an excuse anyway.

Signs of a Cheating Wife

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy. 2) She sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.
3) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
4) She buys herself new underwear.
5) She sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to her office.
6) The toilet bowl seat is up, and when you left home it was down.
7) She’s unconventionally spending money on new clothes.
She stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
9) She stops wearing her wedding ring.

Signs of a Cheating Husband

1) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
2) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
3) You find a long blonde hair on the seat of his car.
4) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back.
5) He suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
6) He works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
7) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s home.
His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume.
9) You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy”
You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

How to Catch a Cheating Spouse?

Don’t be a victim, you deserve better!

If you are a spouse who suspects your partner might be having an affair, wants to find out if he/she is telling the truth or has a need to discover details of the affair, we recommend that you begin with spying on your partner online with a stealth monitoring spy software.

Generally, spy software is a surveillance tool which allows you to secretly monitor and record user’s activities on computer, and it is completely legal. Spytech Real-time spy is a perfect one. With this easy to use spy software, you will be able to see exactly what your spouse has been doing online and off-line just like you are looking at the computer monitor over his/her shoulder! It allows you to record keystrokes, e-mails, online conversation, password, Web site, and take screen snapshots at intervals like a surveillance camera, and deliver spy logs to you via E-mail or FTP at set intervals.

All you need to do is just install it on your home computer and press a simple click! This powerful computer spy program can run in stealth mode and is password protected, so your spouse is NOT aware of its existence, and the password can prevent him/her from terminating or uninstalling this program, and it does not require you to have advanced computer skills at all!

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